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Dear Daughter, We weren't REALLY Super Girl


Dear Daughter,


We are a multitude.


We range in age from 18 to 98. We come from all walks of life, from every continent, every religion, from every economic group. We are wives, mothers, daughters, sisters, friends. We are married, divorced, widowed and single. One distinctive theme many daughters share, is that as children, we very often had to be the Super Girl of our family. Each one of us has vastly different lives, but we all have one single thing in common: We are adult daughters of alcoholic mothers and our lives have been affected by this fact.  


Standing in our mother's footsteps was intended to be how a daughter first learns about relationship with a person that she can trust. Our sense of our self as a person grows from our identification and attachment to the first woman in our lives, our mother. This relationship is the foundation for how a daughter learns to step into a healthy relationship with herself, with others and ultimately, into the world as a woman. As your first role model, what message did your mother bestow on you?




















As a seasoned guide and counsel to adult daughters, my experience includes a wide range of personal recovery work, three decades of extensive coursework, trainings, seminars, workshops, and ongoing educational programs relating specifically to adult children of alcoholics.


Allowing yourself to deal with the residual issues of growing up in your alcoholic home is putting into place your intentional recovery developed specifically for adult daughters of alcoholic mothers. This process is structured in a cohesive and a well thought out progression for you to use as a guide in continuing to move forward determined to fully live the life that you would love.


With warmth and admiration for adult daughters everywhere.


Barbara Banes




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